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Shhhhh! Shame

February 8, 2018

There’s a smallness. Well, that’s because you’re 5’1″ Bek. True. Fair. I digress. A smallness not only in stature but in temptation to attach feeling small to worthiness small. There’s a difference. Like wow I feel humbled down to my core small or I am small and therefore, worthless. When people ask how we’re doing, our response remains: We’re still looking. Bry is working 6 days a week; 2 jobs. I’m writing and coaching. We’re both applying like mad. Money is tight.…

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When God Answers Prayers; Spanish Style

February 1, 2018

** This post is dedicated to Valentinne Rudolphy (Val) **   You know what I’d really love? I’d love to offer this in Spanish too. I can get by but my bilingual days are a bit rusty and I don’t trust myself to translate this correctly. I typed these words to my publisher last fall after listening to their encouragement to write a 7 Day Choosing REAL Devotional. You see, I have a deep deep love for the Spanish language. Church…

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Pave BOLDly

January 26, 2018

There’s a stirring welling up in some of us. A stirring to do life different, a stirring for deep space and contemplation and for real life and faith to intersect. A stirring for brazen boldness. I say this because just last week, while coaching two writers, we spoke of this very stirring. They mentioned not finding a group they fit into and wondering if there is room for them. I could feel my heart hammering as I listened. This is…

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Focusing on the Fringe

January 18, 2018

See that sweet birdy perched on the highest branch? That’s me years ago thinking that to have it all together meant that I had to have a place in church, community, life. That if I was going along with the status quo I’d arrived. Friends, I HAD IT ALL WRONG. I never felt at home there because, what I’m learning, is that I belong among the fringe, the broken-hearted, the messy. Because I am them. Where before I tried to…

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Being a Safe Space

January 11, 2018

I just need a safe space to _______________. I hear this phrase on a weekly – if not daily- basis. I just need a safe space to talk. Listen. Cry. Find compassion. Be welcome Be unconditionally loved. Three days before my birthday my sweet hubby was laid off. Organizational restructuring. You’ve got two weeks. As it is, we are in the abyss of the in-between, the unknown, the not-quite-there-yet. In every sense. Financially. Full time jobby. Marriagey. Parenty. Dreamy. Homey.…

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Wow, God must REALLY Care

December 29, 2017

Last month my sweet friend Maria prayed that God would show up as Provider in tangible out-of-the-box ways. What’s your rent? she asked.  I’m going to pray He brings that money in somehow. I smiled over the phone and stifled a laugh. We’re fine. Does God really care about paying our rent through random acts of kindness? We’re praying for job provisions, people. Rent? Really? I traveled to CA for a few days. Dipped these toes in the sand. Spoke…

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You are not Broken

December 18, 2017

You are not broken; you are human You are on a faith journey. This faith is one of fierce love, authentic depth and extravagant grace. Grace for you and grace for myself. Grace for us who carry more than God intended. Grace as we journey the beauty of caring without carrying. Grace to not expect perfection or fix with solutions. Grace to come as we are and experience an interior lightness, a peace that is given space to know we…

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Choosing REAL Anniversary & Giveaway!

December 1, 2017

One year ago today- December 1st- my maiden voyage of a book, Choosing REAL released into the world. While it feels like a fafillion years ago, we’re celebrating the bookaversary with a giveaway and a behind-the-scenes story. *** Once upon a time there was a new author who wrote a book, sent the manuscript to her publisher, edited back and forth, co-designed a cover and awaited the day she could walk into a bookstore and find the book on a…

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Sunday Confession: Honest Thoughts About Christmas & Creative Ideas for Budget-Minded Souls

November 27, 2017

Are you excited for Christmas? she asked. No. I nothing it. The words tumbled out before I knew I felt them. Been there before? Not sure how you felt until someone asked you and suddenly, whelp, there it is. I’m dreading Christmas, actually. We’re on a slim budget. I want to throw big dinner parties and the reality of opening our doors only to offer a small table is, well, humbling. I mean, where do we even put a tree? She…

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Dear Friend, What’s on your Heart?

November 20, 2017

Hi friend, It’s chilly out and the sky is waving her autumn leaves; those that have yet to drop. My oldest is on the couch, his lap practically in mine, a 3 day fever breaking my heart. I find my thoughts drifting to you. What does your day look like? What are you carrying on your plate? In your heart? What thoughts are bouncing around in that multi-tasking mind? I ask because when I write, I’m communicating with you. I…

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